You and your significant other just broke up and you are heartbroken. Well, you aren’t alone. Other students here on campus are going through the same thing. It’s difficult and it hurts, but together we can get through this. I, myself, just went through a breakup and here are the things that I have learned that have helped me to feel a little better about the situation.
The Huffington Post gives new singles some advice on how to deal with a breakup in their article called, “Dealing with a Breakup: 7 Healthy Ways to Cope with Post-Split Stress.” .
The article mentions that the first way to cope is to “write or talk it out.” Talking to people and being social is very important because you need an outlet. When you break up you have all these extra emotions, and now you don’t have your significant other for support. Finding someone or writing is going to help you get better sooner.
Step two is to “take care of your body.” Don’t go on a “breakup diet” to make him/her jealous. There comes a time when you need to put the ice cream back in the freezer and eat some real food. “Remind yourself of all the great things in your life.” There are great things in life to look forward to. Always look for the positive things and listen to the people who have your best interest in mind. Also “do things YOU love.” Try old things that you did before you met him/her, and then try new things that you have always wanted to try. Invite others to join you so that you have that social aspect that step one mentioned.
Along with the things that you should do after a breakup are the things that you shouldn’t do: namely, not dating the next person you find. Give yourself some time to heal. However, you don’t have to follow the half-the-time-you-were-dating rule, which is, if you dated for a year, you have to wait six months to start dating again. Start dating again when you feel comfortable, so that it isn’t for revenge. Don’t do anything crazy that you may regret, like get a tattoo. Many online sources say you should not talk to your ex for a while. There will be time to try to be friends after the emotions are gone.
Lastly, you don’t have to pretend that you are okay even if you are the one who instigated the break up. It’s okay to hurt because most likely you loved the person, and now they aren’t in your life.
I hope this article has helped my fellow Snow College students who may be dealing with a breakup . I wish you the best of luck being single and eventually getting back out there and exploring new options.