Don’t hate the player, hate the game. The name of the game is dating, and that’s just what dating is, a game. Anyone who disagrees is mistaken. Some people, the majority of them men, are good at that game and go on lots of dates with lots of girls.
Members of society (often disgruntled girls) will label these “good-daters” as players. If a guy is going on a date with a different girl every weekend, does that automatically constitute him as a player? Several Snow College students answered this question.
Ty Church explained, “I think going on lots of dates with different girls is fine. You’re supposed to date around, it’s college. But when you start being sneaky about it and kissing all of them, that’s when you become a player. Once you’re hiding and lying to them, that’s when you become more than just social.”
One student, who wishes to remain anonymous (probably for good reason after the girls read this), is for the pro-player side of things. “If we hear one of the buddies is considered a player? He’ll get a lot of respect from the bros. It’s sometimes hard enough to date one girl, so if he can juggle four or five at once? That’s a stud right there. He’s got to be careful though. It can sometimes come back and bite him in the butt.”
Girls don’t like being played. “Sebastian from Germany in the 11th grade. He was my foreign exchange lover for two weeks and I thought he liked me and I thought he was so smooth with his words,” said Maddi Saddler, as she explained how girls feel after finding out their guy has been getting close with other ladies as well. “Turns out he just wanted to kiss an American girl and he had been telling other girls the exact same thing. I just wanted to slap him every time I saw him after that and say go back to Germany and eat your sauerkraut!”
What are the lessons to be learned from this, guys? Dating different people is perfectly acceptable, but once you start feeling like you have to start hiding things, you’re entering the player realm. If that’s the reputation you want, just make sure you know what you are getting into. Otherwise, be ready for the avalanche of feminine fury about to come your way.