Text messaging is a useful tool, but can it harm relationships? Studies show that texting and using other types of instant messaging such as Facebook or email can actually hurt rather than help relationships.
On a survey that was recently done among 70 Snow College students, it was shown that 89% of those surveyed have had an argument with a significant other through text messaging or Facebook.
Although texting is a handy tool, it lacks tone, emotion, facial expressions, body language, and eye contact. It is likely that the message can cause misinterpretation, misunderstanding, and even deception. The word ‘whatever’ is commonly misinterpreted because it has more than one meaning.
In the survey, 42% said that they had had a relationship with a boyfriend/girlfriend end, or be seriously affected by an argument they had through texting. Among the 42%, nearly all of those said that the argument, had it been held in person, could have been resolved.
Fights can start by just one text and it may seem natural to assume that everything can be cleared up on the next one, but it usually isn’t. In an article on PRWEB.com entitled Warning: Texting May Be Hazardous to Your Relationships, the author writes:
“Couples in the middle of an argument can end up sending dozens of texts rather than doing the sensible thing and picking up the phone or meeting in person. They can end up spending hours texting back and forth when they should really just pick up the phone or meet in person.”
Arguments can be solved much easier if the couple meets in person rather than through text messaging. Face-to-face communication allows one to see and hear tone, emotion, facial expressions, body language, and eye contact.
When fighting through text, one may wait for what seems like an eternity for a response. Face-to-face communication, however, is instantaneous and continuous. Misunderstanding and misinterpretation is rare.
The afore mentioned survey showed that 92 percent of surveyors would rather conduct an argument in person rather than through text, Facebook, email, or any other form of instant messaging.
Ciera Christiansen, a student at Snow College, said she would rather have an argument in person by saying, “I hate arguing through text because you can’t tell what the person is really saying, or how they say it, but in person, there is no doubt.”
It is not a good idea to text how one feels and then hold one’s breath while waiting for a response. The smarter idea is to meet in person.
Relationships that base themselves on face-to-face communication are generally healthier and normally last longer than those that don’t.
Do the sensible thing. Don’t ruin a relationship. Meet in person to have serious talks or arguments with that significant other.